What REALLY Matters In Childbirth?

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I'm going to be honest with you. I am concerned about the focus of childbirth classes. Even mine. We tend to discuss what parents are most concerned about: pain and when to go to the hospital. And I get that. Those are important and valid worries to address. In class, we spend a lot of time on these things because that is what parents came to class wanting to learn.

However, I'm very concerned about what most parents didn't come to class for; what they're not worried about which tends to define their birth experience much more than the pain of childbirth or when they get to the hospital.

No... what seems to stick with people afterward is how they and their baby were treated during birth and postpartum. It’s true, what they say, the memory of the pain fades the moment you put your hands on that baby. But the memory of how you and baby were treated during your birth lasts far longer and has a significant impact on you. It builds your confidence or knocks it down. It leaves you moving forward or constantly looking back with regret.

And what is so funny is that honestly, I can't teach you to prevent the pain. I can teach you to manage it, recognize it for what it is, accept it, and work with it; but it will be there. It isn't going away. But I can do a lot to help you avoid unnecessary medical procedures, harm, hurt feelings, or a traumatic experience. I can help you feel confident in your birth team and your birth plan. I can help you have an overall positive birth experience, no matter what the outcome. Because honestly, it hardly ever has to do with the pain and everything to do with those around you. And you have more control over this aspect of birth than you realize.

How does this resonate with you? Is this something you've thought about?

Over the next five weeks, I am going to touch on the 5 Steps to a Positive Birth. During this series, I'd love your thoughts and feedback. At any time, don't hesitate to reply to an email or leave a comment. I need to hear from you.

~ Jamie

What really matters during childbirth